Friday, March 12, 2010

Thought this was really good

Ok so obviously i'm not married- yet... but thought this was REALLY good and said things that I believe all men/husbands should hear (often?).  Just wanted to share.  Feel free to leave your feedback...

An Open Letter to my Husband

A woman who feels desired is many things:

She is less likely to reach frustration with


or the children

or the cat

or the dog.

She is more likely to feel like an important part of

your life

and the home you share

and the children you created together.

She is more likely to look at her own body

and instead of feeling disgust at the way it has changed

since bringing your children into the world,

she is more likely to remember the feel of

your hands on her hips

or trailing down her spine

or the way that you pull her in

and fit her perfectly into the spaces of your own form.

A woman who feels desired

is so much easier to sit across the table from

as she is less likely to be judging

her own skin

her own curves

her own worth

her place in the bed that you share.

She is more likely to care for the body she has been given,

feed it good, whole foods

put it to frequent use in the garden

enjoy the pull of muscle

and increasing strength

as she carries ever-growing children

and becomes more confident with household repairs.

A woman who feels desired will rear children

who see their bodies as perfect works of art

that should be celebrated


and capable of love.

It takes very little to make a woman feel desired.

It does not require

expensive jewelery

exotic flowers

pages of poems

romantic dates

or even dramatic words.

You can tell a woman you desire her

with nothing more than a look

a simple touch

a well placed word

and by listening to what she's saying

and then responding appropriately.

Without those simple things

even a strong woman may start to feel


And less leads to


self loathing



bad parenting

and a marriage

that may not last the next five years.

So when your wife asks you,

"Do you find me sexy?"

the answer should never be

a long pause

followed by a apologetic

"I just love you."

Lie to me

if you have to,

but tell me "yes"

and then watch

as my confidence continues

to bloom

and my heart stays open

even when the world

is throwing us curve balls.

Because sometimes,

a woman needs to know she is desired

or she'll start to believe

it is no longer true.

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